Hello Blugrey,Before I even get to the astrology, it sounds like you have been pretty good at gauging his feelings. It's alright to trust yourself. From what you describe it sounds like he's been exhibiting strong signals of attraction except for the major signal of asking you out. It seems that some guys need to be pushed a little bit more than others. He may be slightly more apprehensive since you went out with his close friend, but there are patterns in the synastry chart suggestion strong attraction on both sides, his and yours. There may also be a sense of feeling really high and happy when you're around each other also. This synastry chart looks like you should both give it a try.
If it hasn't happened already, my "opinion" is that one of you should initiate a conversation about his friend who lied to you about "J" having a girlfriend when he didn't. Especially if this friend is very close to "J", what else is he lying to "J" about, especially when it could be hindering you and "J" from having a very rewarding relationship, because the feelings are there on both sides and people tend to have loyalties to friends who aren't worth their loyalty and end up regretting it years later.
So, no, you're not crazy. Whatever signals you're getting from him are very real. My feeling is that if you put the information out there that you are attracted to him and have been since before you dated his lying friend, I don't think it would be long before "J" comes around to let you know his true feelings because the astrological patterns are incredibly strong.
My favorite patterns in your synastry chart are:
Your Venus-Jupiter conjunction square his Sun. You feel like a party to him and when Jupiter connects to another persons Sun, you get that helium feeling like you're walking on air when you're around them. The Venus-Jupiter squaring his Sun also has an intensely sweet feeling for him as well.
His Jupiter conjuncts your Sun, even more fun, you probably both talk or write to each other until your mouths get tired or your fingers fall off. Also, when you're together, your feet are definitely not touching the ground.
Your Sun conjuncts his Moon and his Sun squares your Moon. When these lights contact each other, it's the classic male/female relationship. You would both be comfortable with "traditional" rules, even if you are not ordinarily.
Your Venus squares his Nodal Axis - don't be surprised after you reveal your feelings to him he finds that he can't stop professing his love to you. This aspect is usually considered to be a "soulmate" aspect, you feel like you've known and loved each other before in a previous life.
His Venus conjuncts your MC/IC Axis at the IC. You feel completely at home loving this man.
His Sun trines your Saturn - this can give certain amount of longevity to a relationship. Nothing is a guarantee, but a strong possibility.
Your Saturn squares his Mars - this is also a longevity aspect, however, I always give strong warnings with this aspect because at it's worst (not always) it can suggest you placing a control factor on his actions (or the other way around) to the point of domestic violence. Once again, that's not the case for everyone. With this aspect you can literally be builders or mountain climbers or sculptors, but it's up to you both to decide how to use this aspect for positive outcome. There may be a military or law enforcement feel to your relationship with this aspect so do some studying in reference to how Mars and Saturn relate to each other and don't just concentrate on the nightmare stories because you'll find plenty, but remember that plenty of relationships have this aspect and it doesn't only express itself in negative ways. I've read many people on this site who have said that the stressful Mars-Saturn aspects actually contributed positively to their relationships and you both have such positive aspect, perhaps those will offset this potentially negative aspect. Remember, I put it under my favorites for your reading here.
Feel free to ask any questions and sorry it took so long, I've got some physical issues along with fighting a bad cold. I hope that something has occurred between you both by now, that would be lovely.
Please respond in detail as to what is correct or not. Thank you.
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Geocosmic Valentine
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